How to Deal With Your Offices Control Freak - The Muse

How to Deal With Your Offices Control Freak - The MuseHow to Deal With Your Offices Control Freak I wouldnt do it that way. Why dont you try this? What are you doing? Thats not right. Dont do that. Do this.Sound familiar? Theyre all phrases youve likely heard from the notorious control freak in your office. And, while youve somehow managed to continue trucking along without snapping, youre getting dangerously close to the end of your rope.Whetzu sich you have a control-obsessed boss or a ridiculously overbearing co-worker, weve all had to work with someone who has a my way or the highway sort of attitude. Of course, dealing with this partie isnt easy- but its also pretty much inevitable.So, take a deep breath. You definitely can manage to tolerate this person- without constantly clenching your jaw and balling up your fists. Here are five steps thatll help you not only cope with this controlling colleague, but also get some great work done in the process1. Recognize Pure IntentionsWhe n youre dealing with someone who seems to want to micromanage every small detail of every single project, it can be tough to see him or her as anything more than meddling and obnoxious. But, recognizing the positive attributes of this persons work ethic will make working with him or her at least a little bit easier.Lets face it- this person probably doesnt behave this way to purposely annoy you or make your job more difficult. Instead, hes just incredibly passionate about the work he does and wants it to be as polished and professional as it can be. That dedication makes him a great employee- even if his approach is a bit overwhelming and aggravating.Of course, while its great to recognize and appreciate this control freaks enthusiasm and drive, that doesnt mean he or she gets to dictate every part of every project. But, making an effort to accept that his or her motivations are good will make the next steps easier. 2. Ask QuestionsHow do others in your office typically respond to t his pushy and controlling colleague? Does anybody ever say anything? Or, does everybody just roll over without ever standing their ground?Chances are, if this person is still firing out orders, very few (if any) people in your workplace have made an attempt to refute the demands. So, instead of just accepting this persons directions and criticisms and then muttering under your breath, its time for you to encourage a thoughtful conversation about the course of your project.How do you do this? By following up his or her demands with questions. Lets say your meddling co-worker spies over your shoulder as youre drafting a report. She immediately jumps in and says, Youre structuring that report wrong. Do it this way Follow up by saying something along the lines of, I know that we dont have a standard template in place for these documents. This process works really well for me, but Id love to hear the benefits of your method.She might be a little taken aback by your forwardness, but shell have no option but to explain her reasoning and open up a dialogue about the project. Who knows- she might even have some great ideas you can use. Plus, incorporating a few pieces of her feedback will help to placate her. Bonus 3. Voice Your OpinionsWe all know that control freaks tend to think their methods and tactics are superior to everyone elses. But, youre still entitled to some self-direction and independence. So, if you flat out disagree with his or her direction, dont hesitate to speak up. If the controlling person youre dealing with is a co-worker on the same level as you, youll likely have an easier time doing this. Explain why you chose the process youre using- but, dont feel a need to justify every single one of your choices. That only opens up an entirely new can of worms by making it look like you need a stamp of approval on everything you do. Ultimately, if that piece of the project is yours to work on, you have the right to approach it as you see fit. Things get a little trickier if the control freak is your boss, though. Of course, youre still free to share your ideas and opinions. But its probably better to couch them with, I started doing it this way because If your reasonings valid and still getting the desired result, itll be harder for your boss to respond with, Well, still, do it my way. However, your supervisor ultimately has final say on the way you get things done. So, you might just have to suck it up and move forward with his or her instructions. 4. Avoid ArguingTrust me, I know that dealing with a control freak can be a really aggravating experience. And, sometimes he or she winds up so blinded by conviction that a productive, balanced conversation becomes next to impossible.But, at all costs, you want to avoid getting into a heated argument. If it becomes obvious that youre not going to reach any common ground, its time to walk away. I dont need to tell you that screaming over each other will get you nowhere. 5. Request Mediatio nWhen it becomes obvious that youll just never be able to agree on something, its time to enlist some help. If youre on a level playing field where neither one of you has the upper hand or a final say on the project, you need to approach a superior to mediate the situation.Yes, it seems a little childish, and youd like to avoid this step at all costs. But, if youre not making any progress, its essential. Set a meeting with your boss or supervisor where you and the other employee can each present your case. Then, your manager can decide which method he thinks is best- or even pull pieces from both of your ideas to reach a compromise.Regardless of the outcome of this meeting, you need to accept the decision and move forward. So, that means no sticking your tongue out and lording your victory over your co-worker. It also means no under-your-breath muttering if things dont go your way. Ive totally been there- dealing with your offices control freak comes with its ritterlich share of bat tles, headaches, and tense moments. But, its definitely still doable. So, take a deep breath, follow these steps, and prepare to handle that person with poise and professionalism. Photo of people working courtesy of Shutterstock.